The goal is to HONOR GOD in your marriage relationship. God wants you to honor Him by loving and respecting your spouse. If your spouse's behaviors do not kindle the desire in your heart to offer love, then ask the Lord to stir up in you the desire to love your spouse like he does. Offer yourself as a vessel unto the Lord so that God can love your spouse through your thoughts, attitude and actions.
When your husband or wife looks at you, reflect back to him or her the magnificent creation that God made them to be. You will reap what you sow. Patti
Galatians 6:7-9 (ERV)
7 If you think you can fool God, you are only fooling yourselves. You will harvest what you plant. 8 If you live to satisfy your sinful self, the harvest you will get from that will be eternal death. But if you live to please the Spirit, your harvest from the Spirit will be eternal life. 9 We must not get tired of doing good. We will receive our harvest of eternal life at the right time. We must not give up.